"THE DAY" HAS ARRIVED

The big day has arrived!

Today our baby daughter married her love in an elegant and relaxing ceremony in a beautiful backyard setting.  

We wish them all the luck in the world.  Although, I must say - I have a feeling that they will not have to rely on Lady Luck for a gamble on happiness and love.  This looks like the real thing to me.  In a very short space of time, they seem to have found a recipe for success.

In my opinion there are certain foundational prerequisites to a good marriage.  It starts with respect, kindness, and realistic expectations. In addition, partners need to learn the skills of a healthy give and take, giving fair consideration to issues that present, and always try to empathize with the other point of view.  Putting the partnership needs above self needs will help  in reaching mutual goals.  

Trust is a cornerstone:  being able to place yourself in the hands of another, and look to the future with faith in a positive outcome. 

Resilience is a necessity - our journeys in life do not always lead to paradise. Partners need to learn to overcome obstacles with astute and practical problem-solving. Expect the unexpected, accept what can't be changed, deal with what you can, and move forward even if they are only small steps at a time.  

Sharing experiences and mutual goals is important.  Equally important, though, is holding onto your sense of self by setting personal goals and embracing your own values and beliefs, remembering that this is a right for the other person in the relationship as well.  

No relationship will stand the test of time if there is no forgiveness for mistakes and slip ups.   Stubborn, narrow opinions of what is acceptable, or possible or right will serve to stultify and stagnate.  Competitiveness and defensiveness also have no place in a successful marriage.   Flexibility in thought and deed, and the art of compromise should feature consistently.  Empathy is a natural soothsayer.

In the main, a marriage is constantly evolving and, therefore, needs constant work and attention.  Each partnership is special and will need unique components and approaches over time.  There is no how-to guide, no specific recipe for success.  

So to the newlyweds - choreograph your marriage dance:  put your dancing shoes on, listen to music, find your own rhythm, and dance the night away, forever in each others arms. 

We are truly happy that they have found each other.  We will enjoy watching on the sidelines as they start this wonderful new adventure together.   

Wishing you both true happiness and love to last a lifetime.